building a beach house [i]
by connie s. truction
a beach house (on stilts) needs balance and stability.
chances are, if we were building a beach house, we’d feel better with more stilts than with fewer. can you imagine building a house on one stilt?
building a personal life is similar.
a person who builds his whole life around his marriage, for example, will experience his whole world ‘crashing in’ if the marriage/stilt were to 'fail'.
he would have built a much more stable home if he had utilized several stilts, such as:
if we decide to build a personal home with several stilts… if we don't put 'all of your eggs in one basket'… if we refrain from 'betting the farm’ on one horse…
…chances are that we’d experience a higher level of wellness and ease (even if one of the stilts became weakened).
think of the supermodel who bases her whole life
upon her physical appearance.
as the appearances fade (as they must),
this beautiful woman might experience
unimaginable levels of insecurity.
beauty, riches, fame, etc., come crashing down…
…if the house is built on one stilt.
let’s re-view some of our ‘stilts’ (see the bullets, above):
* can we nurture/bolster any of these stilts? (for example, can we strengthen friendships?)
* can we build any new stilts?
* can we recognize if/when our beach house is at risk?
* can we take the time (in advance) to question the building process (who, what, how, where, when, why)?
many of us are ‘building a beach house’. if we choose to build for the long term, it makes sense to consider the foundation.
never rush the long term dream home. in fact, it might be wise to consider the reasons for building it in the first place. it's not the dream home that we want, but rather, the way that the dream home makes us feel.
is it possible to experience the feelings, even without the beach house? is it possible to experience the dream during the building process? is it possible (during the building process) to reinforce the foundation?
have you ever built (or dreamed of) a beach house?